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31. Having Conversations that Facilitate Healing & Promote Resilience with Robert Vore

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The show today is a flashback to one of the top viewed sessions in our 2020 church Mental health summit with Robert Vore.  Robert is a therapist, specializing in adolescent and young adults and the founder of CXMH Podcast.  His Summit talk is titled How to have conversations that facilitate healing and foster resilience and has a ton of power-packed moments. 

 

 

 

 

 

PODCAST LINKS:

Mental Health Sunday resource pack: MentalHealthSunday.com

CXMH Podcast: cxmhpodcast.com

 

How do I promote healing and support resilience as a faith leader?

 

Step 1: Open the Door

  •  It’s hard to talk about deeper personal concerns if that is not typical of our relationship. 
  • As a leader, invited people to talk about these issues with you so they know it’s appropriate to talk about these issues.

 

Step 2: Get your bearings

    •  Seek out training and equip yourself with the knowledge to have these conversations with people. 
    • Follow mental health professionals and organizations  on social and Newsletters so that you have quick and easy access to mental health information 
    • When you are engaging through hearing and reading about mental health we become more confident in talking about it

 

Step 3: You go first

    • As a human, you have experienced struggles and hardships, and by being vulnerable and sharing your experience first you allow others to relate and feel more comfortable reaching out.
    • When you talk about your experience use descriptive language rather than prescriptive language.

 

Step 4: How you show up matters

    • Focus on how you are showing up, and then what you do is going to follow that. 
    • First focus on creating safety, then foster the relationship
    • We want to be fully present, be Non-judgemental and have no agenda

a) Being present

        • Listen – Listening is the first act of love
        • Listen deep – Don’t just listen for the words said, but also for the meaning and message that is being conveyed
        • Ask Deep – being willing to go beyond the surface with questions

b) Non-judgemental 

        • Don’t assume you understand – opt for curiosity rather than judgement “What’s it like for you?”
        • Be prepared – Have resources available so you don’t feel caught off guard

c) Having no agenda

        • Know your limits – having awareness of your skills and knowing when to refer
        • Practice – Role play hearing difficult things and knowing what our response would be
        • Do your own work – so that you aren’t working out your own emotional wounds on people who are coming to you for help. 

 

 

CONNECT WITH ROBERT VORE

Website: cxmhpodcast.com
Socials:  Instagram – Facebook – Twitter

CONNECT WITH HOPE MADE STRONG

Websites: HopeMadeStrong.org
Socials:  Facebook – Instagram – Twitter – YouTube

Join the Church Mental Health Facebook Group! In the Facebook group, we chat about how to care for others, what are your challenges as well as share tons of resources.  This is a great community of pastors, clinicians, and those with lived experience and we want to get to know you.