How to support someone struggling with mental health

How to support someone struggling with mental health

With mental health impacting 1 in 5 people it is very likely that you are going to talk to someone who is struggling. You want to help, but have no idea what to say and you surely don’t want to make it worse. 
Here’s good news.  Here are 5 things you can say to support someone struggling.

This is Burnout

This is Burnout

Burnout is a real thing. 
Combine prolonged stress, with no control or ability to change your circumstance and you lose hope. 
As hopelessness grows you develop a belief that you are trapped and nothing is going to change. This is burnout and it impacts millions of people a year. 

Must-be-nice-syndrome 

Must-be-nice-syndrome 

Have you ever found yourself cynical or having difficulty being encouraging to others when they tell you about their positive life experiences and self-care practices? Same. So when I experience breakthrough, joy and excitement I find myself holding back on sharing not wanting to cause anyone else to feel bad. Must-be-nice-syndrome is really a red flag signal that we are lacking in the self-care department.

The New Year’s resolution that not only will change your life but everyone around you.

The New Year’s resolution that not only will change your life but everyone around you.

Instead of looking at what habit you want to change or adapt for the new year I want to turn resolutions upside down. Let’s first look at what motivates you to change, rather than the habit you want to change. At the core of our motivations as humans are connections and relationships, but when we are experiencing compassion fatigue we tend to isolate. Setting ourselves up low motivation.

Managing those who suck up all your time on Sunday

Managing those who suck up all your time on Sunday

“Pastor, do you have a minute?”   Famous last words… Both of you know it’s not just one minute. Soon enough, you start working on the body language to indicate that the convo needs to come to a close. After all it’s Sunday and after service is not the time or...

Just Let Me Be Alone

Just Let Me Be Alone

When was the last time you went out to a social event because YOU wanted to go? Not because you were required because of your job, or because family expected you to, but because you genuinely were looking forward to going out, seeing people, laughing and enjoying the...

5 Ways to (still!) Meet Your Needs While Supporting Others

5 Ways to (still!) Meet Your Needs While Supporting Others

Two phone calls to struggling parents, one hospital visit, a support session with someone who has been going through a rough time in their marriage and that’s not counting the six voicemails and the 38 emails that are waiting for a response. *bing* Oh, make that 39...

How long have you been working today?

How long have you been working today?

“15 hours” “That’s crazy” he responded and headed to bed. When my husband asked me this question I paused to think. The question came at 11 pm and I still had my computer open, stretching my neck every 10 minutes from looking down at the screen for hours. It was a...

How to debrief without burdening

How to debrief without burdening

Unicorns pooping slime? Why is this even a thing?! My children have been obsessed with slime. This must be a common experience because the toy industry has developed every way in which slime can be marketed. I have avoided slime in my house as much as possible, but...

Have you ever felt trapped in your circumstances?

Have you ever felt trapped in your circumstances?

Emotionally and physically exhausted from the work of caring and supporting others, I was feeling hopeless, hard and dried up. I began to doubt that anything would change.  Every door and opportunity I tried to open — in the hopes of refreshing — closed in my face....